Personal development

Personal development

My work supporting people to discover and live their life’s purpose is my response to a call that I felt I had received a few years after I had confronted the fact that I had become invisible in my life.

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To give you context about my work in this area, I had discovered that I had become invisible in my own life because I had denied myself self-care while I had focused exclusively on caring for the needs of others – raising our five children with a disabled partner, and working a full-time job with the ups and downs that accompany the management of a career. Exhausted, I realized I had forgotten to care for my needs. I had forgotten me.

That wasn’t the worst of it. I learned with a heavy heart, that by denying myself the simple expressions of who I am, my so-called acts of self-sacrifice to support my family where in fact weakening my family. Because, I was weakening. I was wearing down and my reserves of strength and resilience had become depleted. By choosing acts of self-sacrifice as evidence of my love for my family, I learned that these very acts contributed to me not being there for them in the ways that were meaningful to me and to them.

So, there came a time when I had to learn to do different. To renew my energy and my sense of hope, I needed to return to the things I used to love doing. For me, this involved writing — poetry, song writing, fiction stories, as well as writing non-fiction pieces too. The format of the writing was not as important as the act of writing itself — doing what was natural for me from my earliest years.

As I continued down this path, other things that I remembered loving to do but had also stopped doing began to surface. Increasingly, and surprisingly, spiritual pathways to support me to do things differently presented themselves to me on my journey. It was scary and mind-blowing at the same time.

As I continued to push myself out of my comfort zone to force myself to do a better job expressing myself and learning to speak my truth, I felt called to help people do what I was learning to do — to do what I call “figuring out how to climb out of the rabbit hole.”

In the same way that Alice in the Alice in Wonderland stories slides down a rabbit hole to fall into a topsy turvy world where dimensions don’t fit, and behaviours seem illogical, and so on, at some point, it’s essential that we learn to climb back up to the surface to resume the best version of our lives. This is especially crucial as we apply what we learned in these experiences to better serve our purpose in life.

I have found Steven Pressfield’s discussion of this notion interesting and useful, and perhaps you will too. He states in his book The War of Art:

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance. […] Late at night have you experienced a vision of the person you might become, the work you could accomplish, the realized being you were meant to be? Are you a writer who doesn’t write, a painter who doesn’t paint, an entrepreneur who never starts a venture? Then you know what Resistance is.” – Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

For me, in my life at that time, the question was, “So, now what?”

And it’s that very same question that helps me now to scope out the nature of my role responding to a call to support you to fulfill your life’s purpose.

Images courtesy of the artists at Pixabay.